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Depression: Supporting a family member or friend

Helping someone with depression can be a challenge. If someone in your life has depression, you may feel helpless and wonder what to do. Learn how to offer support and understanding and how to help your loved one get the resources to cope with depression. Here's what you can do.


Learn the symptoms of depression

Depression signs and symptoms vary from person to person. They can include:

Feelings of sadness, tearfulness, emptiness or hopelessness

Angry outbursts, irritability or frustration, even over small matters

Loss of interest or pleasure in most or all normal activities, such as sex, hobbies or sports

Insomnia or sleeping too much

Tiredness and lack of energy, so even small tasks take extra effort

Changes in appetite — reduced appetite and weight loss or increased cravings for food and weight gain

Anxiety, agitation or restlessness

Slowed thinking, speaking or body movements

Feelings of worthlessness or guilt, fixating on past failures or blaming yourself for things that aren't your responsibility

Trouble thinking, concentrating, making decisions and remembering things

Frequent or recurrent mention of death, suicidal thoughts, suicide attempts or suicide

Unexplained physical problems, such as back pain or headaches

For many people with depression, symptoms usually are severe enough to cause noticeable problems in day-to-day activities, such as work, school, social activities or relationships with others. Other people may feel generally miserable or unhappy without knowing why. Children and teens may show depression by being irritable or cranky rather than sad.


Encourage treatment

People with depression may not recognize or acknowledge that they're depressed. They may not be aware of signs and symptoms of depression, so they may think their feelings are normal.

All too often, people feel ashamed about their depression and mistakenly believe they should be able to overcome it with willpower alone. But depression seldom gets better without treatment and may get worse. With the right treatment approach, the person you care about can get better.


Here's what you can do to help:

Talk to the person about what you've noticed and why you're concerned.

Explain that depression is a medical condition, not a personal flaw or weakness — and that it usually gets better with treatment.

Suggest seeking help from a professional — a medical doctor or a mental health provider, such as a licensed counsellor or psychologist.

Offer to help prepare a list of questions to discuss in an initial appointment with a doctor or mental health provider.

Express your willingness to help by setting up appointments, going along to them and attending family therapy sessions.

If your loved one's illness is severe or potentially life-threatening, contact a doctor, a hospital or emergency medical services.

Identify warning signs of worsening depression

Everyone experiences depression differently. Observe your loved one. Learn how depression affects your family member or friend — and learn what to do when it gets worse.


Consider these issues:

What are the typical signs and symptoms of depression in your relative or friend?

What behaviours or language do you observe when depression is worse?

What behaviours or language do you observe when he or she is doing well?

What circumstances trigger episodes of more severe depression?

What activities are most helpful when depression worsens?

Worsening depression needs to be treated as soon as possible. Encourage your loved one to work with his or her doctor or mental health provider to come up with a plan for what to do when signs and symptoms reach a certain point. As part of this plan, your loved one may need to:

Contact the doctor to see about adjusting or changing medications

See a psychotherapist, such as a licensed counsellor or psychologist

Take self-care steps, such as being sure to eat healthy meals, get an appropriate amount of sleep and be physically active


Understand suicide risk

People with depression are at an increased risk of suicide. If your loved one is severely depressed, prepare yourself for the possibility that at some point he or she may feel suicidal. Take all signs of suicidal behaviour seriously and act immediately.


Act if necessary:

Talk to the person about your concern. Ask if he or she has been thinking about attempting suicide or has a plan for how to do it. Having an actual plan indicates a higher likelihood of attempting suicide.

Seek help. Contact the person's doctor, mental health provider or other health care professional. Let other family members or close friends know what's going on.

Make sure the person is in a safe environment. If possible, eliminate things that could be used to attempt suicide. For example, remove or lock up firearms, other weapons and medications.

Call your local emergency number immediately if the person is in danger of self-harm or suicide. Make sure someone always stays with that person.


Stay alert for warning signs of suicide

Learn and stay alert for common warning signs of suicide or suicidal thoughts:

Talking about suicide — for example, making statements such as "I'm going to kill myself," "I wish I were dead," or "I wish I hadn't been born"

Getting the means to attempt suicide, such as buying a gun or stockpiling pills

Withdrawing from social contact and wanting to be left alone

Having mood swings, such as being emotionally high one day and deeply discouraged the next

Being preoccupied with death, dying or violence

Feeling trapped or hopeless about a situation

Increasing use of alcohol or drugs

Changing normal routine, including eating or sleeping patterns

Doing risky or self-destructive things, such as using drugs or driving recklessly

Giving away belongings or getting affairs in order when there's no other logical explanation for why this is being done

Saying goodbye to people as if they won't be seen again

Developing personality changes or being severely anxious or agitated, particularly when experiencing some of the warning signs listed above


Provide support

Remember that your loved one's depression isn't anyone's fault. You can't fix the person's depression — but your support and understanding can help.


What you can do for your loved one:

Encourage sticking with treatment. If your relative or friend is in treatment for depression, help him or her remember to take prescribed medications and to keep appointments.

Be willing to listen. Let your loved one know that you want to understand how he or she feels. When the person wants to talk, listen carefully, but avoid giving advice or opinions or making judgments. Just listening and being understanding can be a powerful healing tool.

Give positive reinforcement. People with depression may judge themselves harshly and find fault with everything they do. Remind your loved one about his or her positive qualities and how much the person means to you and others.

Help. Your relative or friend may not be able to take care of certain tasks well. Give suggestions about specific tasks you'd be willing to do or ask if there is a task that you could take on.

Help create a low-stress environment. Creating a regular routine may help a person with depression feel more in control. Offer to make a schedule for meals, medication, physical activity and sleep, and help organize household chores.

Locate helpful organizations. Several organizations offer support groups, counselling and other resources for depression.

Encourage participation in spiritual practice, if appropriate. For many people, faith is an important element in recovery from depression — whether it's involvement in an organized religious community or personal spiritual beliefs and practices.

Make plans together. Ask your loved one to join you on a walk, see a movie with you, or work with you on a hobby or other activity he or she previously enjoyed. But don't try to force the person into doing something.


What you can do for yourself:

Learn about depression. The better you understand what causes depression, how it affects people and how it can be treated, the better you'll be able to talk to and help the person you care about.

Take care of yourself. Supporting someone with depression isn't easy. Ask other relatives or friends to help and take steps to prevent becoming frustrated or burned out. Find your own time for hobbies, physical activity, friends and spiritual renewal.

Finally, be patient. Depression symptoms do improve with treatment, but it can take time. Finding the best treatment may require trying more than one type of medication or treatment approach. For some people, symptoms quickly improve after starting treatment. For others, it will take longer.


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