As horrible and traumatic as your childhood experiences are, you can always deal with them in adulthood. When turning to a psychologist, many are perplexed, "Why are you asking about my mother, if I came with the problem that the family is falling apart?" or "What does my childhood have to do with it if I can't get married at 35?" People do not realize that the human psyche works like an accurate computer, and repeatedly throughout life clearly recreates the programs that wer

We can all become better relationship builders by clearing our minds and practicing a few basic principles. While as individuals we are brilliant and talented, few of us work in a vacuum; therefore our ability to develop relationships with others determines how successful we will be in our workplaces and in our relationships outside of work. People are not born with natural abilities to develop and build great relationships with others. These are skills like any other that ca

Are couples with a similar sense of humour more satisfied in their relationships? The world we live in can be tough, but nothing makes life go smoother than good humour, which happens to be just as, if not more, important in our romantic relationships. One of the first things that people say they look for in a mate is the ability to make him or her laugh. You don't need to be a comedian to make your partner laugh. The real humour is found in the everyday moments that you shar

Key strategies associated with achieving Mindfulness: Awareness. You are fully aware of being in your body, in the moment, here and now. Observation. You observe the coming and going of thoughts, feelings, sensations, emotions, moods and external events without holding on to them. Presence. You remain fully present in consciousness. (The opposite of absence) Attention. You exercise neutral attentiveness to internal and external events. Wakefulness. Sometimes ordinary consciou

In order to create a healthy mind, we need to identify irrational thinking patterns which prevent us from moving forward in our lives. Below are 7 things we can learn to quit now. www.psychologistdiana.com #awakening #journey #trust #mentalhealthawareness #spiritualawakening #believe #mindfulness #spirituality #counselling #powerofmind #mindfulness #inspire #determination #wisdom #love #consciousness #awareness #soul #abundance #beyourself #focus #personalgrowth #goals #spiri

We can all learn to be happy. With a few key principles our lives can be enriched and our achievements limitless. Contemplate the key principles to achieving happiness. www.psychologistdiana.com #awakening #journey #trust #mentalhealthawareness #spiritualawakening #believe #mindfulness #spirituality #counselling #powerofmind #mindfulness #inspire #happiness #determination #wisdom #love #consciousness #awareness #soul #abundance #focus #personalgrowth #goals #spiritual #motiva

We can all learn to think positively. Practicing a few key principles our lives can be enriched with realities of our own making. A sense of real living with prevail, free from the restraints which our subconscious thinking patterns hold us in chains. Contemplate the key principles to breaking free from negative thinking patterns which often imprison us within our subconscious mind. www.psychologistdiana.com #awakening #journey #trust #mentalhealthawareness #spiritualawakenin

Self-care is about looking after yourself and your mental health. The relationship you have with yourself is crucial to your own wellbeing and also to creating healthy and happy relationships with others. Being kind to yourself regularly is one of the best things you can do for yourself and for your relationship with others. www.psychologistdiana.com #awakening #journey #trust #mentalhealthawareness #spiritualawakening #believe #mindfulness #spirituality #counselling #powerof

How to love yourself and build self-confidence Let’s try to find out why low self-esteem is formed and how to learn to treat yourself well not because of external achievements, but just like that. Perhaps you know that a person is the sum of their own thoughts, emotions and and actions.  What you do is your life, your reality.  If you work in an uninteresting job, you don't live with those you love, you hardly spend money on yourself, and for the sake of another you are ready

Depression "," stress "," frustration "- these words have become firmly established in our lexicon, but do we understand their true meaning? My experience shows we do not always understand their true origins. This is especially true of the word "depression". Some call depression a low mood, others brush aside complaints about it, explaining the patient's condition with banal laziness. But what is it really? Let's figure it out. Depression is a disruption in the metabolism

Although generating alternative thoughts can be helpful when challenging thinking traps, we can also use “standard” thoughts to handle many difficult emotions and situations. Repeating these thoughts to yourself like a 'mantra' can reduce the intensity of your mood, and help you choose a more helpful response or behaviour in tough times. Sometimes simply saying how you feel and why can make an emotion less intense. "I am furious that my friend did not turn up as he promised."

If you still think an upsetting thought is fair and accurate, consider ways to cope or other possible outcomes. Here are some useful questions to ask yourself: If it is true, what is the worst outcome? What is the best? What is the most realistic? If this does turn out to be true, what can I do to cope? How have I coped in the past? How would I advise a friend to cope? More helpful thoughts can help you to get through it Often, we choose unhelpful behaviour because we re

How we feel, the thoughts we have, and how we act are all connected. Distressing feelings, negative thoughts and unhelpful behaviours can go hand in hand. Negative automatic thoughts are those that just pop into your mind. They have little or no evidence to back them up. They can lead to distressing emotions. When your mood is low, you are more aware of these thoughts. This can cause you to spiral further downwards. This article focuses on helping you become aware of the nega

We often spend time fighting against our worries or telling ourselves to stop worrying. This is unhelpful. It can cause us to feel worse, and to worry even more! Worry is a part of our lives. It cannot be avoided. We can prevent ourselves from worrying too much by learning how to manage our worries. This article will introduce you to three techniques to help you to manage your worries. Worry Time - for practical and hypothetical worries Problem Solving - for practical worries

Worrying is thinking about problems that may happen in the future. It’s something everybody does. You can spot worrying by its “what if” pattern – “What if I get fired?”, “What if my HEALTH DETERIORATES?” and so on. Some worry is very helpful and causes you to act appropriately. For example, if worrying about a car accident causes you to be safe on the roads, then your worry is a good thing. Or if worrying about a presentation for work causes you to prepare carefully, then yo

This blog focuses on the principles of cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT). CBT offers skills and practical strategies that can help you think and feel better. The key idea of Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) is that your thoughts, feelings, and behaviours are not separate. They are linked, and each influences the other. By changing how we act and think, we can have a positive effect on how we feel. How effective is CBT? CBT is one of the most widely used treatments for anxi

There are many forms of anxiety that are categorised into different types according to the basis of the fear associated with the feelings of anxiety. This blog explores the thinking patterns asociated with the different forms of anixety. What is Generalised Anxiety Disorder (GAD)? Generalised anxiety disorder is where you feel anxious most of the time. It can cause the following symptoms: Poor concentration Irritability Sleep disturbance Tiredness Physical tension Avoidance E